Rodin explains that we deal with strangers by first excluding all who strike us at first glance as unsuitable as acquaintances. They become invisible and are no longer an object of attention, not even remembered. One rationale is exclusion of people who are not expected to be acceptable friends. This is also a judgment on attitude similarity.

	Undergraduates disregard elderly or middle-aged.
	Middle aged disregard those who are young.
	Males disregard unattractive females.
	Somototypes: endomorphs -round people ectomorphs - tall, slim people mesomorphs - athletic, muscular
	Walking style, somotype, and emotional expressiveness all evoke stereotypes.
	Males who act in a dominant way are more liked.   Females who act in a dominant fashion are less preferred than deferential females.

Obesity is associated with negative evaluation, which leads to low social skills.

	Females tend to be less responsive than males to the appearance of the opposite sex.
	Handsome men are generally perceived as more masculine.
	In male undergraduates, sexual desirability is positively associated with high ratings as a potential spouse
	Research has found that babies prefer attractive grownups more and grownups prefer attractive babies more.

	Attractiveness among those running for political office is a bonus for males but not for females.
	Research on ratings of essays shows that raters associate attractiveness with intelligence.
	Attractive people date more and are more popular, even in elementary school.
	Although good interpersonal skills are found to be associated with attractiveness, self-esteem is not.

	Dion (93) videoed interviews with students. Over-weight women scored higher in appearance anxiety than women whose weight was normal or below average, and also higher than men, including overweight men.
	Perceive themselves as unattractive self-esteem drops and depression rises.

The matching hypothesis states that people seek people who are similar in physical attractiveness, average with average. Matching in both dating and same sex friendships. The perceived attractiveness of oneself by others is affected by the attractiveness of one’s friends. Studies of college freshmen roommates in dormitories have found that the more attractive roommate felt more dissatisfied with the situation than the other roommate. The less attractive displays envy.

Equity explains that each person makes about the same contribution to a relationship. Equity explains ugly, rich man and attractive woman.

	We are more likely to become friends with others who have similar attitudes. This is found across many cultures.
	This is true with regard to percentage, either 2 of 4 or 50 of 100.
	Those that scored high on empathy liked a similar stranger better than did those scoring low in empathy.

	People initially respond to other people with liking, assuming that people had attitudes similar to their own..
	Only dissimilar attitudes play a role in decreasing liking.
	This does not invalidate the attitude similarity hypothesis because increasing the proportion of dissimilar attitudes also decreases the proportion of similar attitudes.

	Strangers are assumed to disagree with us. When they surprise us by agreeing, attraction goes up.
	When they disagree as expected there is little or no effect on attraction.

	Balance theory; Two people who like each other will have the same attitudes, expect to have the same attitudes, and want to have the same attitudes. People who dislike each other will not care about whether they agree or disagree.
	Consensual validation Similar attitudes lead to liking because agreement is considered evidence of being right.

Complementary Dominant people should like submissive people according to complementary theory.

2 Corinthians 6

^"14Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? "